tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post726285189232222618..comments2024-03-27T08:29:57.022-04:00Comments on Years That Answer: Bedpan PoliticsColettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-88404161921715970132019-10-14T09:25:02.155-04:002019-10-14T09:25:02.155-04:00The more I think about it, the more I agree. Nurs...The more I think about it, the more I agree. Nursing is a noble profession, dedicated to attending to the needs of the patient. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-80887685665266785842019-10-13T19:08:14.078-04:002019-10-13T19:08:14.078-04:00I think you were right to ask for a female nurse. ...I think you were right to ask for a female nurse. When you are in a hospital that is so stressful anyway, anything to make yourself comfortable is what is important. The female nurse was wrong to even mention it to you, she sure needs sensitivity training.Vagabondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774109692564954568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-20981002308233417722019-10-13T12:51:28.386-04:002019-10-13T12:51:28.386-04:00Thanks! Good to hear a male perspective as well.Thanks! Good to hear a male perspective as well.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-52018741648697155372019-10-13T09:12:27.972-04:002019-10-13T09:12:27.972-04:00I completely agree. I only see female gynecologist...I completely agree. I only see female gynecologists now because of the intimacy. (I had one male OBGYN I really liked, but he was the exception). And both my breast surgeon and reconstructive surgeon were women. I think it's absolutely okay to insist on a female nurse for a bedpan.<br /><br />And I just read this to my husband, who is a medical assistant. He said he's had similar situations and he completely understands and is okay with that.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-64894768379068106942019-10-12T13:55:11.020-04:002019-10-12T13:55:11.020-04:00Thanks for your professional opinion. I appreciate...Thanks for your professional opinion. I appreciate it. I might be sexist in this regard, and if so, I will own it. But I think it is less about sexism than it is about patient rights.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-4746335510012257132019-10-12T13:51:05.036-04:002019-10-12T13:51:05.036-04:00Thanks for weighing in on this, Sabine. Thanks for weighing in on this, Sabine. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-18082283492226008542019-10-12T13:50:36.464-04:002019-10-12T13:50:36.464-04:00I appreciate your taking the time to comment on th...I appreciate your taking the time to comment on this post, Chain Stitch Crochet!Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-85412366900539220472019-10-12T10:57:28.786-04:002019-10-12T10:57:28.786-04:00I would have done the very same thing. Shame on th...I would have done the very same thing. Shame on the female nurse for not having the compassion for you and not know why it was that you asked for a female nurse. I guess I shouldn't be like that but like you said, it's about you, not him. Chain Stitch Crochethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865611172125103299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-124705525776790282019-10-11T13:42:49.971-04:002019-10-11T13:42:49.971-04:00Living in a country where we go to the toilet or t...Living in a country where we go to the toilet or to the loo instead of the ladies or a bathroom or even a powder room etc. has maybe something to do <br />with this not being an issue for me ever.I have met amazing (and good looking) male nurses and paramedics who had to clean up my vomit and my shit in situations I don't wish on anyone. I apologised every time but they just laughed it off.<br />Having said that I do understand your reservation and in an ideal world I would opt for female medical care too.Sabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-68699115887579425692019-10-11T13:20:33.360-04:002019-10-11T13:20:33.360-04:00Sounds like a good idea to me. I'm very pro-ch...Sounds like a good idea to me. I'm very pro-choice.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-49187900946784749362019-10-11T12:08:05.485-04:002019-10-11T12:08:05.485-04:00I don't think you were wrong at all! You have ...I don't think you were wrong at all! You have a perfect right to ask for a different nurse, for any reason at all. In fact, don't some doctors' offices stipulate that patients have a right to ask for a nurse of their gender? Seems like I've heard of that before.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-6809211657945843502019-10-11T09:32:28.692-04:002019-10-11T09:32:28.692-04:00I agree with you that you get to choose but as a n...I agree with you that you get to choose but as a nurse I have to say that giving someone a bedpan, although very hard on the patient, is no different than washing a window for me. I didn't realize how much time I would spend caring for naked bodies when I became a nurse, I was young. I always understand how hard it is for patients to need help with personal care for but I always tell people that this is my job. We have a young male nurse at work and he is an amazing, kind, compassionate and highly skilled nurse. <br /><br />I think it is sexist to ask for a different gender nurse to give a bedpan but that being said, I prefer female doctors because they have the same parts as me, so I can see both sides of the argument. Quit beating yourself up. We're human.<br /><br />I don't think there is a right or wrong answer, I think you need to do what makes you comfortable.My life so farhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16721270441968035994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-28249769029799276632019-10-11T09:27:33.480-04:002019-10-11T09:27:33.480-04:00Thanks for weighing in. I think the male nurse wa...Thanks for weighing in. I think the male nurse was fine with it. He never said a word and was very respectful/professional. It was the female nurse he had to pull in to do the task that had the issue. I believe she was 1. feeling she had to defend her friend, and 2. annoyed that she had to do his work at that moment. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-64995368329797332932019-10-11T09:24:46.187-04:002019-10-11T09:24:46.187-04:00Many thanks for your comment, Jean Ellen.Many thanks for your comment, Jean Ellen.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-10523584150810787592019-10-11T09:22:08.357-04:002019-10-11T09:22:08.357-04:00I was post-surgery, so it wasn't about defecat...I was post-surgery, so it wasn't about defecation. Getting myself to that glorious state of release took days. I was home and in charge of my own destiny by then.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-35423905211015564712019-10-11T09:19:17.453-04:002019-10-11T09:19:17.453-04:00You are a better woman than me! You are a better woman than me! Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-19575095268428658142019-10-11T08:34:35.903-04:002019-10-11T08:34:35.903-04:00This reminds me of the time my girlfriend was havi...This reminds me of the time my girlfriend was having trouble nursing her newborn. They sent a male nurse in to assist her. She put her foot down and demanded a female nurse. Do what you are most comfortable with.Jean Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18244968309213848871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-51274231714218893342019-10-11T04:40:59.488-04:002019-10-11T04:40:59.488-04:00I think you're entitled to ask for a female nu...I think you're entitled to ask for a female nurse if you feel more comfortable with one. The male nurse may be well qualified and experienced but he (and the female nurse) should accept that your feelings should be respected and not overruled.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-54671587095024761622019-10-11T03:03:16.243-04:002019-10-11T03:03:16.243-04:00Previous comment far, far too long and far, far to...Previous comment far, far too long and far, far too ironic. Wrong time of day, etc. Mustn’t exceed 100 words. So let's take a firm hold; let's be terrribly, terribly adult. "Anal" is merely an adjective derived from the noun "anus" which some semi-porn novels refer to as "XXX XXXX XXXXXXX"<br /><br />Right? Wrong! Or let's say incomplete. Freud adds: "relating to or denoting a stage of infantile psychosexual development in which defecation is the major source of sensuous pleasure and the anus forms the centre of self-awareness." Need I go further? Can’t. That’s 99 words and I mustn’t prickle.<br />Roderick Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16828395545197001637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-28254608254755018322019-10-10T20:14:52.946-04:002019-10-10T20:14:52.946-04:00When I broke my foot, my femur and my shoulder, si...When I broke my foot, my femur and my shoulder, simultaneously, I was sent after one night in the hospital, to a rehab facility. A beautiful, wonderful, lovely rehab facility, and everyone should be as lucky. I was totally helpless, as you can imagine, with half the body immobile. <br />I always had to pee in the middle of the night, and some night duty nurse or another would show up. All women. Until the night too many had called off, and the respondee was the night med nurse, who happened to be a man. And he stood looking down at me, and apologizing for the delay, because answering all these bells had become disconcerting. He asked if I had wet yet, and I said No. Well, he said, I can offer you the option of using the diaper or the bedpan. I chose the bedpan.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16601010208310707750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-18610997725322597182019-10-10T18:35:09.205-04:002019-10-10T18:35:09.205-04:00Thanks, Robin. It seemed imperative at the time. ...Thanks, Robin. It seemed imperative at the time. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-3312437625203065042019-10-10T18:19:44.671-04:002019-10-10T18:19:44.671-04:00I think you were absolutely right to ask for a fem...I think you were absolutely right to ask for a female nurse. We must be allowed to have boundaries, even in a hospital. We are so vulnerable there as it is, it's good to find ways to feel comfortable and maintain some semblance of privacy. Yay Colette!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-32421475138472967032019-10-10T15:47:14.544-04:002019-10-10T15:47:14.544-04:00Many thanks for sharing your thoughts - lots to th...Many thanks for sharing your thoughts - lots to think of there! As I said to am below "I am also happy there are more male nurses and more choices in the profession." Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-47376074663054148722019-10-10T15:45:45.996-04:002019-10-10T15:45:45.996-04:00Your comment brought me to tears. Thank you for sh...Your comment brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with me. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4729559664676971737.post-82399026058396528982019-10-10T15:44:26.510-04:002019-10-10T15:44:26.510-04:00Thanks! I sure didn't need to feel humiliated...Thanks! I sure didn't need to feel humiliated and compromised at that particular moment. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.com