coming out of my shell

coming out of my shell

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Respecting anger

Oh, I don't know. I guess I am just getting old.  I used to be a hell raiser, a loud mouthed dame ready to take on the world. I'm still ready to take on the world, but I have less energy. These days I am trying to cultivate a different approach.

I have mentioned before that I am hot-tempered. Anyone who knows me will concur. I have a decent sense of humor and I try to be affable.  However, I also have a very short fuse. Once sparked, I am off and running. That is the way of it for me. I am not bragging, I'm complaining.

People (in my real life AND on blogs) are often talking about anger right now. It is interesting how connected we are by reality. Truthfully, it is hard not to be angry in April 2017.

Let me explain the way I feel about this current reality in mytho-poetic terms: The world has run amok. Trolls and ogres have found a crack in our shields. They claw their way into this dimension driven by the demons they serve. A battle for sovereignty is being waged... Thanks for indulging me, I hope it was as fun for you as it was for me.


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n these times of bad manners, political strife, and acrimony I feel like I am overusing anger. More to the point, I can't help but notice when I lose my temper, I lose the fight.

I'm trying to chill and use my words instead of my temper. Because I like to win.

Bad ass baby alligators






22 comments:

  1. Got to love a post that ends with bad ass baby alligators. As far as the anger, moderation is key.

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    1. Aren't they cute? And yes, I agree with you about moderation. Hard to achieve, but a worthy goal.

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  2. I remember reading once that expressed anger is sadness externalized and that sadness is anger internalized. Does that make sense or is it total BS? I tend to internalize anger and be depressed. Every now and then my fuse is lit and I scream bloody hell. But for the most part it's just inner rage. Cute baby alligators!

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    1. I think that's right. Especially since I'm that type who, when sad, finds it easier to deal with sadness by becoming a raving maniac. They are very related, sadness and anger. And also explains depression. Anger has its place, and shouldn't be ignored. Same is true for sadness.

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  3. I am a fairly calm person. I've had my moments but for the most part I am a person who just rolls up my sleeves and goes to work to get the outcome I want. I believe that in the end of all this turmoil I will come out on top.

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    1. Good thoughts. In the meantime, I've been angry twice already this morning. Sheesh.

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  4. Living in Canada, things aren't as extreme but they are certainly not good. Our province is in terrible shape. Our municipal council spends so much time arguing amongst themselves. One is being charged by the police but we are not privy as to why. I don't hold much to Bible scriptures these days it I think of this.
    "And Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers..."

    If he can be angry so can we.

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    1. Jesus was an early right-on social activist.

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  5. I don't get angry all that much anymore, but that's mostly because I don't see the people who make me angry. Out of sight our of mind...sorta, kinda.
    But it's that ridiculous thing in the car. I will yell, even sometimes out loud things that I would never even think of saying to someone in public. Most of us do that. It's just unaddressed anger at other things and it's so subconscious that I often can't even connect it to the thing that might actually be making me angry. Something I need to work on.

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    1. Actually, maybe you are on to something productive by releasing your anger in the car. How freeing it would be to just yell out some of my angry thoughts someplace safe.

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  6. Well said. I hate the direction we seem to be going.

    I react instead of staying calm and thinking things through before I respond. I really admire folks that can think their response through and react calmly.
    My project to work on:)

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  7. I respect what you wrote but I anger is something I don't want to feel. But I do and it makes me mad. And it makes me unhappy and I cannot sleep and the people around me suffer, too and so on. I try and recognise it and figure out a way to ge rid of it. Sometimes by distraction, mostly via exertion and if I am luckky, by thinking and talking.

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    1. I'm comfortable being an angry person, because I've always been that way. I try to imagine it is a funny quirk of mine. At the same time, I'm trying to control it so that I can more effectively win some personal battles (again, that's me). I suspect you are a more complicated person than I am. And you are going through some really hard, even horrific times right now. I am a little in awe of your anger, truthfully. There is a terrible, frightening beauty to it. But I'm so sorry you have to feel it. Not fair. I'm happy there are some productive ways for you to work through it and distract yourself sometimes. I think you know what a huge fan I am of the way you take physical and emotional pain and transform it into beautiful thoughts, and stunning truths.

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    2. I'm sorry if I romanticized your pain, by the way. It is just that I hope you know that you are the kind of blogger who gives so much more than she takes. In my own limited, plodding way I want you to know how much you and your blog mean to me.

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  8. Thank you. If anybody romanticizes my illness it's me. I actually get great comfort from what I would consider my own limited plodding. And rest assured that there is not too much actual physical pain now that the back surgery has healed. And what is fair anyway?

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  9. I didn't used to have a lot of Anger until I became a full time Caregiver of Loved Ones that needed me to Advocate for them, then it was quite easy to go on the Warpath, kick ass and take names. *winks* I prefer tho' to be Zen and Calm, that's my Natural state of Being. But if someone or something wants to incite the Rage, go ahead, play me hard... the response won't be Pretty but it is damned sure effective... which in itself is a Pity isn't it? That the Zen and Calm side of me cannot seem to be as effective and I really don't like that I have to be difficult to deal with in order to get desired results when it comes to Advocating for the most vulnerable in Society. I do find when you're dealing with The System as it stands tho' they often mistake Kindness for Weakness and Temperance as one who is a pushover. So... if they cannot Respect me, then I'm okay with them Fearing me instead if it gets the job done. *Winks* Dawn... The Bohemian

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    1. It is too often true that there are some people who mistake kindness for weakness. They are the dregs of society. They are the ones who deserve our anger.

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  10. Ever since Trump came into power I've felt vulnerable, nervous and overwhelmed. I think that's part of the reason I haven't been blogging. Everything seems negative.

    I have a terrible temper too. Especially when I see inequities.

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    1. Anger seems to be an epidemic these days.

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