coming out of my shell

coming out of my shell

Friday, October 24, 2025

Paying Forward

I went to the grocery store the other day. I had about $116 worth of food, and went to the check-out lane. A friendly older woman was working the register, and the bagger was a high school boy. We exchanged pleasantries, and then it was time to pay. I reached into my purse to pay and in horror realized I didn't have my credit card. As you can imagine, I was distraught. 

I told them I only lived about 10 minutes away and asked if they could put my bags in the cooler until I returned with my card. They were very sweet to me, but I was humiliated.  

Suddenly, a woman in the next check-out lane walked over and announced she would pay. I tried to talk her out of it, but she insisted. She told me to consider myself blessed. What can one do when confronted by an actually good religious person? I pulled the 3 packages of Halloween candy out of the cart and asked the bagger if he could put them back for me. I would accept her kindness, but I wasn't going to take advantage. I joked that she was for sure going to heaven for this act of kindness, and she laughed. I thanked her profusely, as one does when they are embarrassed. I promised her I would "pay it forward" and do the same for someone else. 

The very next day I returned to buy the Halloween candy. The woman in front of me in the check-out couldn't get her card to work, and was upset. Something was wrong. I uneasily recognized her humiliation. I stepped up and paid her bill. It was $118, almost the same as mine from the previous day. When she tried to dissuade me, I told her my own story and that the amount was virtually the same. She accepted and promised to pay it forward. Wow!   

And if you think this is all about the goodness of white people, think again. The only white people in this narrative were me and the high school boy.  



9 comments:

  1. Oh, that's a lovely story, Colette, and just the happy news I need to hear right now. I think it's great how the paying forward came so quickly for you and I imagine how nice it will be when that paying forward will keep going and going...

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  2. It feels so good to do it. If we can each make one other person feel good, it would be a wonderful world indeed. (The comma is for you.)

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  3. To offer to pay for a stranger's bill that is over $100 is a pretty big deal! I don't care who you are or how financially comfortable. Good on the both of you.

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    1. Thanks. None of the people involved had lots of money. That made it so much more magical.

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  4. This is wonderful to read, thank you Colette.

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  5. That is such a wonderful story, Colette. It's so nice to be reminded of human kindness. (NewRobin13)

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